5 Tips to Stop the Parent Guilt.
1) Shut the fuck up inside your head.
Seriously, think about all the horrible things you say to yourself about yourself in there??
You’re nagging yourself to death!
As soon as hear the NAGGING COMMITTEE starting, think about what you would say to Donald Trump if you had to listen to him talk about, well, anything really.
What would you shout in his face to shut him up talking shite?
Use the same sentence to stop your mind talking shite about you and STOP NAGGING YOURSELF!
2) Do a mind dump before you switch off the light to go to sleep.
Post-its and a pen beside your bed, write down whatever comes into your head, full sentences, words, whatever is inside your head driving you insane get it out of your head onto that post-it, scrunch it up and aim it towards the bin. Lights out. Simple as that.
Give it a go and see what happens, you might find yourself sleeping like my husband. (head hits pillow, passes out, snoring within 5 minutes, doesn’t hear ANYTHING.)
3) Unplug Yourself.
There is waaaaayyy to much going on in there and its toooo loud and noisy, its time to slow down your thoughts so you can mind dump the 1000’s of useless thoughts and make room for the thoughts that make you feel good instead.
5 minutes is all you need and to help you, you can download my FREE 5 minute “Sanity Saving” MP3 here and start using it straight away.
(waiting in the car before school pick-up is a total game changer to your mood).
Make the MP3 work for you fit it into your schedule so even if Paw Patrol is playing in the background and the kids are eating their faces off with chocolate covered in chocolate at least you’ve put a stop to the relentless nagging committee inside your head which means you’ve stopped making yourself feel bad.
You can buy “Recharge Your Sanity” for €15.
4) Smile, even a false smile will send happy signals to your brain.
Smiling reduces stress that your body and mind feel and smiling helps to generate more positive emotions within you. That’s why we often feel happier around kids, they smile more. On average kids smile 400 times a day. Whilst happy people still smile 40-50 times a day, the average of us only does so 20 times. Jesus Jones, thats terrible isn’t it? only 20?????
When you’re around your kids and you catch them doing something that makes you smile, its from ear to ear, isn’t it? Even the little things mange to achieve that ear to ear smile so hang out with your kids and increase your smiling target. If your kids are getting on your nerves remember this and lash a smile on your face.
5) Get out into nature because nature has a way of calming us.
There is a silence in nature that soothes our nerves. The brain sends these calming signals to our body and our muscles relax and unwind and when you begin to feel this happening the domino affect between brain and body begins to form a loop, racing thoughts and overthinking stops and the body relaxes.
Kids love nature. If your teenagers are doing exams ditch the books and drag them with you because they need a bit of peace and quiet inside their heads too they just don’t know it. Sure you can put an old head on new shoulders, as my Mam use to say.